Why you should never call your child “troublesome “

There are lots of possible reasons for difficult behaviour in toddlers and young children.

Often it’s just because they’re tired, hungry, overexcited, frustrated or bored.

However, when your child exhibit such behaviour, it doesn’t mean he/she is troublesome but rather troubled.  

Things that can affect your child’s behaviour

• Life changes – any change in a child’s life can be difficult for them. This could be the birth of a new baby, moving house, a change of childminder, starting playgroup or something much smaller.
• You’re having a difficult time – children are quick to notice if you’re feeling upset or there are problems in the family. They may behave badly when you feel least able to cope.
• How you’ve handled difficult behaviour before – sometimes your child may react in a particular way because of how you’ve handled a problem in the past. For example, if you’ve given your child sweets to keep them quiet at the shops, they may expect sweets every time you go there.
• Needing attention – your child might see a tantrum as a way of getting attention, even if it’s bad attention. 

How to handle difficult behaviour

Do what feels right, Do not give up, Be consistent, Try not to overreact, Talk to your child, Be positive about the good things, Offer rewards, Avoid smacking